Freddy Jackson: How to Empower Youth by Breaking Free from Ego | Integral Yoga Podcast 122

so Freddy I wanted to start by asking you about this Foundation that you created MH Called Love No ego M um what can you tell us about it what is it love no ego Foundation nonprofit not for-profit organization 501c3 uh helping youth ages 10 to 18 I just little more uh from their natural human intuitive space while being aware of the egotistical and societal pressures that come in and provoke that fear and overly self-centeredness and separation and overly self-centeredness say more about that yeah so I mean I
think it's I think we're selfish self-centered by Design and default like you can not not think of yourself uh it's more so our message goes um think of yourself less not think less of yourself so quantity versus like quantity and number of times versus the quality that you you know I can think less of my I can think of myself less times without thinking less of who I am as a person so uh overly self-center this that's why we say overly but also seems like the the the quality of my thoughts regarding myself makes a big difference too those can
take a lot of different forms like um I can think of myself on a level of practicality simply because I control this being and I don't control another being so it's very practical to think about myself in that regard but to think about myself in comparison with someone else or to be self-conscious about how I'm created always worrying judgmental about myself that's that's quite different right it is you know it's quality and you can even throw the quantity back in it like you know sometimes we might have a thought
um of that caliber but what happens when you have a lot of thoughts of that caliber you know you kind of letting yourself down down down down um so circling back overly self-center and fear um we have a mentoring program uh weekly one-on-one in depth collaborations mentoring sessions where we take them through our curriculum uh that we created uh that involves a lot of nature uh nature helps to hone in on that message of love and gets to reality it gets uh our clients our youth clients to help to see themselves
and develop an understanding of where they came from um even if we don't have the exact answer uh you can you can trust reality you can trust reality yeah reality reality reality doesn't reality doesn't need us to to cooperate it doesn't need us to exist it's it's already real it's already reality we're fortunate and and grateful to to to be of that to be of that Universe you know um so we want them to see that and feel that and experience that and and and that's love that's that's love so before you take it and attach it to things of the
world that we created by the way you know the things and before you take it and attach it to something outside of yourself like recognize it it's here it's it's there so we do that through the mentoring program uh we also do motivational speaking we go into schools residential treatment facilities wherever the school wherever the kids are um and they pretty much accept us there they accept the message you know welcome us there uh so we go into their environment and we try to boost the morale of their environment uh get
everyone on this love note ego message uh hold each other accountable do good be good uh just want them to see that this is how you maximize The Human Experience it's through love right and that's what we all want we all want the best out of life we all want to squeeze that lemon and get the most juice that we can get out of it you know so how do you maximize it it has to be through love don't you think like you know it has to be love and acceptance yes and love Encompass you know embodies like so much acceptance so many things
acceptance um Integrity you know ethics um it's bold it's courageous is uh it's humble is it's it's full of humility it's you can trust it it's an knowing that that's connected to love um and even in that knowing or perhaps potentially doubtful knowing if that makes sense um you still have the energy and and and the capacity to to trust it and watch let's see what happens and that that makes you more responsive and controls your your faculties a lot better and how you respond to challenges versus reacting so that's the love no ego
message uh in a nutshell if you want to say yeah you mentioned children being like there's a focus on youth right and that they might be more open to this message than adults do you find that to be the case for me I think it's it's for me I feel like it's pretty even um you know give or take a few couple cents you know here and there but I'm more into and I say I want to say we we are more into sharing the message um meeting people where they are um and with that and and the way that we go about it it's very inclusive it's
it's not pressuring I think all human beings can relate to it for the simple fact that we are human so despite the age despite um demographic um there may be some experience in programming that that's happened before that kind of make maybe as some additional walls to go through um but people know like when I I pulled up here this morning uh the guy you were talking to waved at me then he he did a double take cuz he saw the message on the van you know and he's looking and I could see and feel the knowing happening then the Curiosity
happening then and he he drove past me he even stopped and he was looking I thought he was going to maybe come speak or something but um but that's it you know and that's all it takes it takes uh not all it takes but it takes that that's an important step in initiating uh the space to get back into to being to to Being Human to being in this moment in the now uh and and taking that spirit and allowing it to do what it natur naturally does it it extends you know that's what love does like it it just it exudes outward
and every soul walking the Earth can can relate to it yeah you know I've been thinking about um the root structure of trees lately like I could say one of um one of the big moments of my life actually was coming to realize that I I believed that energy is very real and extends beyond the outer layers of my skin I talk about this quite often but it was a big moment because once I really believed that and realized that I believe that it changed my relationship with my own energy because whatever's going on inside here it's not just
impacting me it's getting sent out mhm and so that that gave me more responsib ility and uh more of a a reason to really monitor my energy um and I so I've been thinking about more recently that it I think there is a root structure that happens in kind of invisibly but we all feel it right like the energy of an environment of a of a of a place you walk into a new place you feel something there so something must be transmitted M all us yeah I love that what do you what do you think is uh the obstruction the main or a couple main
obstructions between oneself connecting with this love you know I could say resistance and stubbornness and things of that sort but you know there's the experiences of each person is very unique so there might be some added layers less layers more layers that need to sort of come down uh surrendering is is a great word but we have to understand to that society and the way that we came up you know might have enabled us to allow words to have a different meaning like you have a different meaning like the word surrender you know if I watched a bunch
of war movies or things like that it's like okay surrender is give up it's not necessarily giving up it's it's more so allowing you are allowing yeah to you know yourself to let go of things that do not serve that that why would I want to spend so much time resisting this resisting that f fighting that um fighting reality you talked about before yeah like why would I want to do that like I I want to again maximize this Human Experience that's a goal so I want to enjoy this day it doesn't make sense for me to go day to day to day to
month to year to years resisting the same thing same problem the same conflict you know we talk about history repeating itself and you know we have a a issue we have an issue of not learning a lesson you know I was just thinking about that we don't we the same conflict comes back because why we haven't learned the lesson like so do you believe that like life is trying to teach us all the time all the time all the time like and there's there's resistance to the lesson that's me it's it's like okay I'm going to if as long
as you keep resisting I'm going to keep bringing up this lesson again and again until you get it you can't change reality you just can't it is like it just is and and it's a beautiful thing you know it can be somewhat of a scary thing but the more practice that you um and you know just initiate the more desire that you have for truth creates the space for you to be okay grow okay and grow I'm okay and grow until you reach this space of like wow I'm really like I'm on 10 every day naturally you know like I'm on 10
naturally and it's not like look at me I'm on 10 it's more like wow this is happening like wow like man life it's beautiful like I'm grateful that I get to do it you know so you reach that space and wherever you go you just add you just add to the spaces that you go the relationships that you have you you just add and it's a beautiful beautiful thing life is a beautiful beautiful thing if it's not beautiful uh we have to look at what we've made of it like what's been given to you life you serious that's beautiful you
get to be here a brand new day every single day love God treats whatever Sun Moon Star says boom here's a brand new day one you never seen you'll never see again go play on the playground you know this it's yeah like go play and and and we wake up and we we're still mad with something that happened 362 days ago and then 720 days ago and you bringing it into this brand new beautiful day y you know when you have an opportunity to surrender to the bull and to not take myself too serious seriously because I think that's the
obstruction for playing mhm can't play if I'm just taking okay what am I holding on to from the past and these labels of myself clinging to that now I can't play you can't play I'm not free you can't you know I made a video this morning um on my Tik Tock and I was just thinking I came down early I stopped in scottfield I went to torter Creek and I sat back there on the rocks and the dam that por off and you know saw the partial sunrise and things and I'm sitting there and the messages kind of you know came to me and
I'm like what would you do if you were in this moment and you're about to transition you're about to die death that we know of leaving this Earth and you have one word that you could say one word your last word that you could say what would it be you know and I pause and I said my word would be like love it has to be because that that'll transcend all the meanings that to help everybody understand like like love I love my people I love these hum hum uh I love life uh I'm I'm grateful um it's the greatest energy it's the everything we're designed to do
and be here on this Earth one word what would it be and I said it has to be love now coming for a circle if that was your last word there would be a lot of things things that we are caring about today that you wouldn't even think about care to think about on that day so that's that's that's the message in itself like if it's if it's that important at that particular time it's important at this particular time we talked about reality what did you say about reality before about um reality is H somehow it's help helpful to us it teaches it tees
um so the reality is that the next moment is not owed to me to us right the reality is is that that moment that you're talking about death can come right now mhm you know asteroid can come at this planet whatever a lot of things can happen right yeah that's reality and you mentioned resistance to reality right there's something about the human experience at least a popular way to experience it to run away from that reality of death mhm but it seems that death can be a very useful tool to instead be afraid of it to look at it to
utilize it towards living more fully squeezing the juice juice like you talk about maximizing experience in order to maximize experience there has to be this relationship with death mhm mhm you have to you know accept the we talk about resistance and accept acceptance and you have to I think it's important to uh accept the inevitable you have to accept life's inevitables um I don't want to spend my life resisting something that I can't change yeah right that makes a lot of sense right you know okay so with that
if I'm scared out of my mind right now if I can just find some space to create seconds minutes hours of practice to if I'm afraid of like say for example years ago 5 6 7even maybe close to 10 I I was really starting to be afraid of losing my parents I started to see it cuz a lot of my friends were you know lost their parents and I'm like you know this is a it's a part of life you know and it would wake me up sometimes I would dream about it you know and for me that that that says if I listen and and I and I don't react so
much and kind of just let me let me set with this let me be still in this and in that Stillness I get messages I get messages in my Stillness it says if you are afraid like go towards the fear what can you do to combat the fear um so you know I started calling my parents more I started I put it in my weekly routine I'm going to see them once a week I drive down hang out and change light bubs I do all kinds of stuff whatever they want me to do you know I get firewood I put it on the porch whatever you know I run errands
and just be just be with them and we started having more experiences and we're laughing and we're joking we're arguing we're doing a bunch of stuff we're just doing it that gives me a sense of comfort now that I'm plugging up that hole of fear with like active participation of love and and and I'm I'm participating versus just sitting back and being afraid and being scared yeah so when fear pops up now for you do you become interested in looking at it investigating it more closely yeah I do that's the way you know that's the
way to to heal to you know say the salot maximize The Experience Human Experience um that's just the way and again it's reality why would I I can't I can't waste years afraid of this one thing that's actually going to happen anyway you know and so in that active participation in and I find a lot of gratitude you know I find a lot of gratitude I I call my parents I I laugh with them we we do Snapchat videos together like they you know my dad 75 my mom's 73 and they don't know what Snapchat is of course but you know I
turn it on on my phone and it changes your whole face you know and I'm showing my dad himself he's like who's that I'm like that's you he's like no that's not me that's not me and he's talking that's not me wait a minute he's like oh but the fun and then being with them and the dinners and the stories and you had to soak you have to soak it all up as much as you can and um let love do what do what it does you know do you feel that you know gratitude in a way being genuinely appreciative of this experience that we're having is um a
maturation there's a there's a maturation there's a um a process happening mhm I think it's a natural given is such a natural rooted um embedded in us when we are created when we're conceived because we're designed to to to help to give we're actually you know we're one you know we're one and that's why when you truly give like when you when you give to your time your energy something that that's going to like really ignite this other person you're like they're going to love this like I love you know and you and you
give them whatever you spend time with them whatever it might be there's no other feeling like that no other feeling like that there's no other feeling like that yeah I could give you I could give you a th000 bucks or whatever I could give you something of the world you know give you a brand new car whatever I don't know and you know a year later that car is going to you know whatever you know it's something else you want now right but maybe the way that I gave you the car or maybe the time that I spent with you
like that never wears off that never it's like man you remember that day when you came up and we took that hike and we had that tea and then you had that car waiting back for man that was beautiful and it was great and but uh there's nothing to replace that feeling of giving yeah without you know you you don't there's no return you don't you don't think in those in those ways and you're not expecting um just the giving just the it's in our nature it's rooted it is the reality of of the makeup yeah I think that don't you feel like super grateful
if if you help someone change a TI on the side of the road or you and you just you just go on about your day and you're like man you know anytime a big moment I had was I realized that I was is on this track of being totally wanting to be totally self-sufficient you know as ridiculous as that sounds right like I didn't like to ask people for help you know at all I would try to avoid that then then occurred to me how do you feel when you when someone asks you for help I was like and you're able to help them like I feel great yeah so not
asking for help I'm depriving others of that experience that they're having which was like w okay which opened me up to being able to have ask for help but that's a great Point yeah it's I think again it has everything to do with reality and trusting in nature itself right there seems to be a good amount of doubt and fear around what the human being is right like if we go back to Our Roots our true nature that we're going to be terrified that we're going to be like you know like like just totally violent and um you know not inclusive
with each other and I think that that's totally wrong actually if we go back to Our Roots we'll see um you know like Swami suchand he talks about the apple tree and he says you know the tree it doesn't care if someone throws stones at it uh it's going to give the Apple the same to that person as the person who Waters it M right like the purpose of the tree the apple tree is just to give fruit M and I think we are like that too that's the same exact point like our purpose like very deep down is to serve there's all this you know it's
just talk about purpose finding purpose and the purpose can take a lot of different shapes and forms right those apples can be of lots of different varieties right and the different fruits or whatever but Underneath It All I believe is that giving this that experience of giving that we're all interested in having even if it like it ends like I'm just focus on giving to my family right or my community okay that's that's there's still a a giving there yeah you know giving is the giving is is the absolute proof that you
have you know give have give have it's it's proof that you have and I think our perception which is a choice in itself like it's not reality it's perception right like our perceptions get thrown off because of what we call reality we think that you know if I can engineer a car together that's real that's that's reality or um my 9 to-5 um you know we we that there's reality and then there's what we made up M there's reality and then there's what we made up there's natural then there's unnatural there's truth then there Illusions there's love then
there's fear there's love then there's ego but but I actually think that all of the illusion and unnatural is contained within the natural so it's like yes it's true but you can't everything is reality like even the illusion even the unnatural like what isn't nature yeah yeah so like it's important to remember that at least for me because I don't want to vilify anything yeah and it's it's not and I don't you know I don't I'm know I don't mean to um uh vilify but it's like for me it's like this is who and what I am that's
what made me think about this when you said who is the human being you know but this is this is who and what I am all this over here is just what I do just what I do yeah that's good that's not who I that's I'm a motivational speaker okay now if I can take reality and what I do and kind of align those two yeah now the world is really like just this big old playground of things and tools that you use well actually think the doing is a byproduct of what I am MH it's a direct manif manifestation of what I am so if I keep working on what I
am growing nurture nurturing this thing what I do is naturally going to take a different yeah different form absolutely totally we're talking more about I guess this connected to this uh what we were talking before about understanding MH right um and just the interest in understanding um what's happening has that always been something that drives you just trying to to understand what's really going on yes um at one point earlier you know in my life it was more um that understanding was more aggressive um in the last decade 10 to
15 years um it's just that understanding has become more of a a loving like curiosity um so and you know that makes the understanding more uh impactful uh more accepting to what's real in there um what's serving me in there what's not serving me in there in that understanding you know um so how about when you have moments where that are challenging for you right maybe you're just not in a great mood not feeling grateful what's your relationship to those moments and what's the process that you notice that happens from kind
of coming out of those those moments and moving in a different direction it depends on the challenge if it's uh um you know I like one morning not too long ago I had I had a presentation to give and I forget where I was driving to and I get out to do something I see this big screw just sticking in my wheel so I'm like man I got to get a new Tow on this thing or get this plugged or something right um so I go and to get it Ed and there like two or three people in front of me I'm like how much time you know am I going to be laid but it worked out
um while they were fixing the tire I went across the street the ran Trail in charfi was there and I I jogged I went jogging and I came back um I'm giving that example because the things that happen out here flat tire um accidents and things I kind of laugh and play with those sometimes like somebody cuts me off in traffic and I kind of you know I go into my comedic mode and I say funny things especially when I'm by myself you know I see a lot of funny crazy things in the car and I'm laughing and then you know I forget about it it's gone you
know um but if I get allow those things to irritate me and irritate me because the moment you you step out like there if you're looking for it you'll find it right so it's going to irritate you and build up this resistance and now all of a sudden you're walking around like I don't like anybody humanity is crazy I don't like them I don't like them this that that you know um but now in a whole new situation if me and say my wife are are having some conflict you know that's that's Behavior together relationship
right in my face and this is something that I'm going to experience every day so we better get to the nitty-gritty and be as authentic as possible and be as vulnerable as possible so we can just happily move on you know uh so it depends on the weight of the uh conflict or the challenge um you know I lost the UN I heard about um I lost the uncle on the way here I was sharing with you before we started and uh that's one of those inevitables that I can't change and that I have to sort of of a challenge that you know it hurts ooh yes ooh what
about my aunt she's still alive you know how does she feeling this morning oh my cousins um which are the grandkids and kids and grandkids you know so I'm like you know how are they doing you know so many thoughts yeah so you know and I think uh having a healthy balance of paying attention to you know your pain um and having that understanding of another person's pain not that you have to fully understand it but you make space for it to be you just make you you know I go hang out with my cousins you know I'm going and see them and I don't
know what they're going to feel like I don't have an expectation of what they're going to feel like I just know it's a it's a sorrow type of time let me just get in the space I care let me just get in the space and and see what happens see if I can be of support be supported I don't know what I'm going to feel when I'm there you know I know what I feel now like I feel all of that and just having a healthy balance of that makes challenges um a lot more easy uh or easier to to navigate and get through is there um like a healthy
confidence in um just the positive value of your own being kind of showing up to diff some environment and and having a positive effect right like I'm just thinking about situations okay a family's together mourning right you show up there right what what do you take with you what do you what do you walk into that with with a with a strategy I want to do this or that or can it just simply be me being like I'm just going to walk into the situation I'm just going to be and I'm going to trust that me just being and in that kind of confident
relaxed secure way is going to do something good for other people in this environment yeah it's more of a being um for me I I just the presence and not really you know there's enough doing in the world do do do do do you know you come out of the wound and it's just doing like what are you going to be who you be what what's your education what you going aspire to be and do do do do and people are doing doing doing doing doing so much um and you know I I step into a space with it's almost like a comfortable unknowing but you know about that
knowing space like it's it's people bring you know you don't know what other people bring into are bringing into the space as well so um just kind of being ready and trusting that you know just me being in there and who I am like I'm I practice being in tune with reality and those inevitables and and love and not that I fully know exactly what it is but I know enough I feel like I can trust it and and and it's and it's it it's it's blessed me so much it's it's reinforced and it's told me like yeah yeah yeah son yeah for it
keep keep going just keep going you know so that's what I come into the space with and I trust that being there will be enough and there are times like we're having Thanksgiving tomorrow of course dinner and I was already thinking this like last week I was like this is a chance like I'm going to see all of my aunts right like you know my aunts my uncles all they all helped we all helped raise each other right or they helped to raise all of the younger kids um do so many lessons and and just principles and family community pillars that they
had and uh so I was thinking like oh I got to get I'm going to get a bunch of flowers and I'm going get my aunt and maybe every other woman in there like some flowers like a flower I'm get like four dozens or something like you know I'll think something like that that I I can do every once in a while you know but the energy of my family when we show up it's like a party it's like we get out of the car dancing there's no music on you know we get out of the car and come into the house you know that's just us and what
we do and uh we're all they have always been on the positive side of things and underneath that is gratitude for being with each other right is that what's below for everyone everyone's been looking forward to this moment this is what it's all about this is what we work for this is you know times like this where Let's uh let's squeeze the juice put squeeze it let's squeeze it I remember uh um my mom um I used to go to church with my mom a lot as a kid and um you know I had to get involved I had to usher I had to sing in the choir to play
drums I had to welcome guests and I had to be a part of the service you know I couldn't just come like no that's not happening right and uh which it it made me like you know it helped me kind of develop and have this sense of curiosity and freedom and just being but um this his name was Reverend Woodson he's still alive um he lived two doors down from me and me and his son uh Sam we were really cool went to school together played in the dirt together but we were at church one day and Reverend Woodson uh told me he goes
uh some other adults were having a conversation and Sunday school had just finished we were transitioning in the church and somebody had maybe like passed and um Reverend wion was sitting there on the Pew and he was talking and he goes uh I remember this part he goes you came here with nothing no he said you came here naked with nothing MH you're going to leave here naked with nothing and he was like what are you doing with your time you know he was like there's no there's no uh Mayflower what was the name of that moving company
was it Mayflower he was like there's no Mayflower truck in here bringing all your stuff you know there's no there's no Brink truck bringing all your accounts with you and like what are you doing and he jumped on the piano he was he was a bad boy at the piano oh my God he just jumped on the piano and he started singing and it was about 20 of us that had attended Sunday school and we started singing and and people started coming in for church and that's how church like that day service started really did like you know it was that
cool and that powerful and that that that really uh I remember that so shout out to Reverend won he's a cool dude he still is a very cool guy there's that death using death to be our teacher using perspective even to be this is a situation this is reality now we can move forward and and make the most of this time yeah and you know you have a you have an opportunity to help yourself understand this and put it in perspective um a 5-year-old passing away transition a little bit more tragic you know but you know my dad I've had him my whole
life you know he's still here you know if we lose a person in their elderly years you know wow look how long you've had them you know my best friend he lost his mom in was it fifth grade fourth grade and I met him in the fifth you know we've been friends since fifth grade so you know when I I hug my dad like I think about that and you know I I want to be my authentic self regardless of what they've been through um I feel like they did the best they could for me that's that's enough I'm here thank you you know and uh we learn
still now from each other and we continue to grow together you know even in our differences of age you know I think maybe the hardest part of of grieving or after someone passes is perhaps a feeling of a missed opportunity like regret like I I didn't really appreciate our time when we were together right like a knowing of like yeah I was actually immature when we were together I was thinking about something else I was worried about things that aren't really that important I wasn't appreciating the time that makes it
harder it really does it's hard no matter what yeah but if I but if I'm really present mhm you know and grateful for those those times and we've had many of them then I think it at least maybe yeah you know it can hold on to that like oh I didn't take it for granted yeah yeah um you have you have to try you have to be willing to be authentic in situations and listen to that knowing and and do your best to communicate it um Jim Rome a guy I listened to and read couple of his books he said um he said it's all risky he said the
day you were born it's all it's all risky yeah you know he goes uh let me get this right he said you think it's risky trying you know he said wait till you get the bill for not trying so yeah so thanks to Jim Rome for sharing that you know that's pretty good I'm curious um have you experienced at all you know as you show up authentically kind of in a relaxed being secure uh state that others are threatened by that and can kind of try to attack you um from that place of of feeling threatened has that has that happened to you yeah it has not
lately um it usually comes from the way that I've often have experienced it it's coming from their thoughts it's coming from their perception which is you know perhaps out of touch with reality um they are feeling that I think that I'm better or I'm this or I'm that like I'm not feeling that way like I want to be very inclusive I I honestly I could be quiet the whole time I'm fine you know but maybe our lifestyles and practices of that lifestyle is different if if imagine if which I do I wake up I watch Sunrise I do some things I
meditate I drink my water I stretch I read I listen to something inspirational it's it's an hour or two hours before I I even pick up my phone or do any type of emailing and stuff right I've been doing that for 10 years or so just going and this person here wakes up watches news grabs the phone makes the coffee gets on the phone starts arguing Scrolls on social media and and and like kind of just getting into the chaos yeah that's my 10 years that's that person's 10 years when we see each other and meet each other maybe he's
seen me on Facebook and I was in Hawaii or something I'm part of the chaos I'm now part of the perception that this person sees oh he's oh he's in Hawaii you know then he comes he's coming in here wearing his robe I love to wear my robe you know I wear it every morning when I go out and watch the sunrise and stuff but he's who is who is this guy in his robe who do who does he think he is you know so that can those experiences or those moments uh challenges can come from different places um there have been moments where I can see competition like
dwelling up in me you know that competitive spirit I was very very competitive as a kid I had one sibling uh 10 years older than me my brother former military he was I watched him play play sports before I really got into it and as a little brother what your goal is to what beat big brother and any and everything anything that you can you know Sport and drinking Kool-Aid eating the chicken whatever right yeah so it made me very competitive and he knew but he was doing big brother stuff to me and actually he taught me so much he put a competitive
spirit in me that enable me to get a a full ride scholarship to play basketball and get a free education undergrad degree um but along the way you know I had to manage that you know I had to uh manage that competitive spirit and use the competition to just get better yeah yeah that's it yeah like that's the only goal of course I mean it's a game we keep the scores somebody won somebody lost but really nobody lost anything everybody gained you know so there every once in a while like I I get that little competitive spirit in me like if I'm
buried in Grants and it's been 90 days of doing these two grants I'm trying to get working with the uh Grant coordinator of the foundation and you know we we we put it in we submit it and we don't get it but the organization that's two years into the game in the nonprofit World they get it and this other company got it this other nonprofit got it I'm like we've been doing this for nine years why didn't we get that that could have gave us but at the same time you know like I have to fall that's my competitive self
coming out and I have to fall back and look at that and we're all doing good work if you have it you're doing good work I have it I'm doing good work we're serving Humanity it's it's it's it's fine yeah it's that uh I think it's the no ego part of it that uh insecurity you know I find it's the most um it's like these situations right where you where you talked about like what has my last 10 years been and what's this other you know to me obviously someone in that in that place where may maybe they don't have this healthy
relationship with competition of realizing that we're all in it together for them we're not in it together we are opponents you know um so to have genuine compassion for that person and where they're at and not losing that love is to me that's the most challenging and that person is lashing out at me they're attacking my ego I think to draw to draw me into where they're at and to say oh see like you're not really where you think you are I just uh you know I got you I I pulled you into my game um that's but that's beautiful because
those are challenging moments but I I think they they really are if someone tries to attack our being and say oh you're not that that great attack the ego so I think that's is that is that what's behind kind of this message of of no ego to to really kind of look at that and see where the ego is at yeah absolutely um I think you know through practicing it's it's it's important that you as humans that we stay in tune as much as we can with the reality side of things like with the the truth uh it it keeps a a a goal it keeps it
consistently active and present within you so in seeing what's real and what's not and doing your best to to live from that the space that's going to serve yourself and other humans the best right and in that space or in those you're able to differentiate and see that you're able to see that you're able to see the fear you're able to see the overly self-centeredness you're able to see um it gives me a sense of I don't have anything to fear so when I show up if it's not immediate lifethreatening danger you know if a bear ran through
through that window right now and and came running towards the stage I don't have to say anything to you you know let's go we're out of here right or we get big and we you know that's lifethreatening that's immediate life-threatening danger another person verbally kind of attacking me and saying some things about me yeah I don't I'm okay I'm not that scared of that perspective I'm not that scared of that like half of my family's Comedians and we cracked on each other all the time you're GNA have I lived in Hollywood and
performed in bars and got told no a lot of times you got to you know it has to if it's not lifethreatening like I have to really truly protect myself from this attack what are we scared of so again that's moving into the fear yeah okay this is here and I'm going to look at it and see oh actually it's not really really something to be afraid of right now and you know you can you can embrace it too you can take another step and try to communicate you can try to listen you can try to I like to ask people like in
in intense situations like um I I hear I hear what you're saying like you want to you want to sit down and talk some more about it like I love to hear what you got to say like but let's communicate for real like let's get a cup of tea let's sit down and talk about it and tell me tell me but I rather have that form of communication than you just kind of going off on me or I'm going off on you or whatever but like there have been times where I've offered to like you want like I hear you and I want to hear you more like please like let's let's
let's talk about it let's I want to hear what you got to say but I don't want to hear it this way no no you know like come on directly at it yeah yeah and some people take you up on the invitation some people don't some people take you up on it later and they last oo that was an opportunity um some people are not ready you know we're not always ready um I'm remember I don't I'm thinking about this me and my wife uh we were out um sometimes we revisit places that we have memories of or you you remember that time we went downtown to that
little hole in the wall bar and and like we got those like celery sticks and they were like the best celery sticks and brussel sprouts with that glaze on it that time you remember that she was like yeah that was I was like we should go back there so we'll go back there you see if they got the celery sticks and the Brussels with the glaze you know but anyway we do things like that and we were back at this place and we were sitting at the bar and she was like I ordered something I ordered a drink I was like I'm going to use the restroom
and I went to the restroom uh I came back and she was looking at me she was like you know and there was a guy next to her when I got up and I left he asked her he said uh like you like being with that black man you know like why did you marry that black man or why are you with that black man I don't think he knew like we were married you know and uh I came back and she was like this guy was like you know I was like for real she was like yeah and he saw us cuz he was right here and he looked at me and he felt compelled like hey how you doing or
speak you know and I was like hey how you doing sh his hand and um I said you want to drink you know and he was like no I'm okay he was like you'll buy me a drink I was like yeah if you want one we're all sitting here you know I said the tab is open you know and um and we just kind of sat there and we talked a little bit here and there he there he was sitting there wife was here I was on this end and throughout the you know time we were there he would turn talk to us say something you know talk I would turn say something you know we're
all kind of just hanging but not really together but kind of together and U I just wanted to see like maybe he would have said something like openly like engaged in what he felt and um at that time I didn't feel like I don't it's it's kind of loud in here it's not I can't be intimate enough I don't know but I just kind of sat in that space But you that's a perfect example I think of what we're talking about it's like man it could have been very easy I imagine to really feel agitated challenged someone saying something like that I
mean you know but you took a different route you know even though you didn't talk about it directly it's your response to that your inclusivity you know maybe that maybe that told him what he needed to hear without actually having to say it maybe yeah and um because he knew that I knew yeah what he said yeah yeah so you know love do what it does you just have to love will do what it does you make the space for it it'll it'll transcend and do what it does with everybody all parties involved you know um I went to a a school a a
college um last week and gave a presentation um that I'm now alumni of you know um in 1997 I was a freshman at this school and I was there maybe a week and me and two teammates we walked down to the store uh it's now sheets something it was something like a Fast Mart or something and I said I didn't want any so I'm going to stay outside I'll wait for you guys you know and they go in uh this truck pulls up I'm kind of standing by this parking lot bumper pole you know have they have the poles like in kind of front of the store so you cars pull up
you don't crash into the store I guess whatever they reason for being there but um I had like my arm on it like this and truck pulls up boom and hits the hits the pole boom you know and I look two gentlemen in there uh two white gentlemen they get out and um it's like they said some rude things like what are you doing here in worth this in worth that and and so you know and he said uh you know where you are or something and I don't know like I was so I I was nervous I was scared but at the same time like I had this little curious
curiosity courage about me you know I've always had this my mom said you know and uh and I said to I responded I said well it sounds like your problem not mine huh that's what I said right I was a little more smart a little more like not smart intelligent smart but like just smart Al yeah were my behaviors then you know I could come back quick you know was witty you know even if it wasn't good for me and uh I said that sounds like your problem like that's in you that's not in me and uh so they walk in you know and
my friends they come out and I was kind of hesitant to tell them cuz one of them his attitude was way hotter than mine you know so I didn't want to call you know some Ruckers you know I'm there I'm going to school I'm on scholarship playing ball and uh so I tell them on the way back long story short um I'm at that school less than two weeks ago giving a presentation to the student body guess what story I opened up with and they had come full circle and they could see me in front of them telling this story sharing this message
love no ego like it was beautiful from the start man and they pay me for being here you know another perk another bonus so having that that Foundation within and having a practice to get you in that space consistently um improves your responses to challenges yeah the relationships to the challenges themselves to really feel like when they come up cuz often they come up too in like moments when you're not expecting them at all you know and boom it's right here this situation um so I think that there's like a preparation that can happen like a
training that can happen for those moments and maybe that's really rooted in the belief that those moments are for our good that is life teaching me cuz my like initial response when those types of things happen is resistance you know like I'm I'm bummed that it's happening why is this happening to me it didn't have to happen yeah so the shift of that to really believe that the challenges are opportunities you take a deep breath and you say okay here we go yeah your example is perfect cuz like right like you use that you're still talking about
it now yeah you know so clearly it was something that you could you could harness for something good you could you could transform um last thing I wanted to ask you about was you know in terms of mentoring in this relationship between adult and youth child like what is your attitude about how to do this successfully how to be a successful Mentor yeah all of the things that we are talking about and having that understanding of Life reality truth love Universe sun moon stars everything that's natural organic having an
understanding of that and what's contrast into that um all of those things um are are great understandings and qualities if you want to call them to to have um helping helping ourselves as well as them to establish a foundation within that's not easily shaken by the egotistical world because uh nine years ago when I founded it out I had this message like I knew I kind of saw that you know the world is not going to stop anytime soon is there's going to be a lot of commercials there's going to be a lot of advertising there's going to be a lot of
propaganda a lot of potential programming a lot of stuff coming at you that's telling you it's it's like you need this to have this uh you need this to be successful you need this to fit in you need this to be cool like it's always almost always pulling you on a journey away from yourself right like think about it it's always trying you need this come over here yeah you want to be happy this way constantly non-stop when I was young TV used to go off it don't go off no more like it's you know it's just it's it's magnet you
know it's just wo all the time so I saw that I'm like this is not good we need something to ignite reignite this space and consistently try to keep it turned on and engage age to reality and truth and what you are and in that process of seeing that and developing it it's like who you are what you do am I living in Illusions over here you know like it's so it's it's so like beautiful to to that process I mean it's so beautiful you have all of these you have this wave of Life information um that you gain through just the now being here present through
however long you are here and it's like I think of I'm getting excited I'm all over the place I'm thinking of uh you know you come into this world the day on your birthday your actual birthday you know like you've been in this this womb for 9 10 months and it's dark it's quiet for the most part you know you he start developing your senses you kick you know you have a heartbeat before this you know like heartbeat and brain still growing doing this thing and you're not afraid up the darkness you don't question it you
just make it work and you come out on your birthday and you just spent n 10 months in this dark place and one of the worst lights ever is in your face fluorescent lights you're wondering what's going on it's noise that's machines chaos Bo people and you know you start moving from your your hospital to your car car to your house house to your room your room to your crib if it that's so and then you next thing you know you're in this school you're in this building you're in this building you're in this building next thing you know you're in a
cubicle and you just unfulfilled and you say you know what I need a vacation so you get passports and you come back to yoga Ville and you you meditate and you pray like you're trying to get it back and the world is just like just pulling you on this journey away from that like away from yourself so I feel like we have we have the best gift ever like life and a beautiful like in like part of that life is intuition like you have that you know like oo you know that's beautiful so with our mentors we want to embody all of that
you know we we want to lay this Foundation for Success that we call it and we take them through these exercises of what's real what's not real and we do it all out in nature to help which helps hone in on that message and after we get this foundation in we start to attach our being this energy of being now you know you're being you're more focus more on being you take this energy of being now we're going to go do what are you interested in what do you like engineering let's go find out let's hook up with some local engineers and
see what we can do M use our Community Resources so now they are really aligning who and what they are in this love space with what they actually do you know and that makes for enjoyable days that makes for less time for a whole bunch of foolishness and resistance and man you know what I have going on over here like this I don't right you know that doesn't make sense that's you know so having them have that Foundation that's not easily shaken and things happen you know but you know we're there to help them navigate
through it you know and uh show up as their best love no ego self yeah and now you know I've been four years now traveling a lot and speaking and sharing the message even in the corporate world like you know educational conferences um different Industries you know that heart engagement and leadership in any environment is is necessary and it inspires people cuz it touches their soul it touches to int intuition they're looking for it and they don't even know they're looking for yeah yeah you know they look buried in spreadsheets and you
know and depending on the opportunity the speaking opportunity um sometimes I say let me you know share your strategic plan with me what you have your goals for the company this that that I want to see them you know before I come in and so I can come in yes with my message but also inspire you and show you actual steps to help fulfill that plan that you have you know so it's it's it's if if they are humans which is which is which are everywhere right it's it's a beautiful thing and no I don't I don't think that the world
will ever ever be able to replace us they can steal our awareness they can steal the awareness away right they can steal our awareness away of that space that we have but they can't steal the space but they can still have awareness of it which makes us behave in whichever way so um it's such a it's such a beautiful gift it's such a wonderful life is such a wonderful thing that's the foundation right there is to see that to believe that that this experience is sacred this experience that we're having I mean that's like the fundamental shift
between survival just getting through yeah it is hard there's challenges mhm but man is this amazing yeah you know to be in awe yeah yeah it's a great book too um but like to to to to reiterate like you have life and then there's what we made of it there's life and that's what we make of it that's life what we do with it that's life you know if you look at what you are doing with it and there's some pieces that you don't you don't like you don't have the courage to to change that to get rid of that to walk away that walk away from
that like love always all the roads of Love lead to happiness like how can it not it's love it's going to take you to to happiness M but there are some tough decisions along the way also maybe so yeah love I think will take you to the truth and truth will also take you to love MH mm yeah and we the the the tagline and phrase for the mentoring program for the old program is called the courage to be you love know you go the courage to be you and that you it's like if I if I ask you to say like I say how repeat after
me but don't say it out loud repeat after me but don't say it out loud I love you I love me life is cool I like it I like it here yoga Ville now you didn't speak it but you still heard it m you still said it you still felt it and you did nothing but internalize it all M that you that's the courage that you the curage should be you you speak from those spaces it's it's underneath all the noise and you move you make decisions the best that you can just simply the best that you can from there see I believe too that this uh
gratitude appreciation for this experience actually cultivates courage yeah right it is courage is what's necessary to make these changes but if I'm grateful for all the experiences that I've had for my life itself right if I'm living in that gratitude it's much easier to be courageous yeah yeah because it makes so much sense for you it's like I no I'm not wasting a second over there as much as I can be aware of I'm not I'm going over here y this is what I want to do yeah yeah cuz I'm honoring the time I'm honoring time each moment
each day is something special wasted doing things that I'm not really aren't serving me or anyone else yeah so yeah it definitely makes it uh easier Freddy if uh people are interested in finding out more maybe if they have an organization that um would be supported by love no ego if they have children that might be supported by it what's the best way for them to find out more yeah I say visit the website l.
org um see who we are uh what we do see our mission uh reiterate that and just reach out it's easy to access us via the website send an email you can call it's all there uh we're all across social media if you Google uh love no iGo Foundation we're sure to to pop up but uh we have quite a few great team members board members um any message that comes in at least two to three eyes are seeing it so you won't be overlooked um we also have Mr love no .
org now so I was you know I've been doing this for N9 years and been going into a lot of schools uh they contract Us in for8 weeks to run them through our whole curriculum and get them on this message and um after starting these workshops and schools um like you know you return on week two week three or whatever you the kids this how what happened how it happened for me the kids were saying uh Mr love no ego's back that Mr love no ego dude is back Mr love no ego Mr love no ego they start calling me that Mr love no ego you know and uh it just got
good ring to it and I was like can I use that like you know without having an ego can I use that so uh and then the corporate world was calling so much you know so I created a lane for it and it's Mr love no ego. org uh it's called Mr love no ego and the byp bill your power team so we have like four speakers and we going strictly to corporate world and speak and conduct workshops for um the corporate folks but uh yes contact us reach out we love partnering we love extending love and just maximizing opportunities and just honestly just I
always say this allowing love to just do what it does for us you know allowing it to extend us and enjoy these days these moments this time you know and be be human Freddy I'm so grateful really that our paths have crossed um and thank you for what you're doing thank you for being you yeah that's thank you for thank you for approaching me that day at a a nurture with nature event in Scottsville so it's been lovely since we've been talking yeah very much so thank you onward together thank you all right awesome